Deconstructing Emotions

For most people, the topic of “emotions” is usually avoided. Getting into discussing emotions probably happens most with a counselor or therapist. I believe that everyone could talk about emotions a whole lot more! Especially within families between adults and children. Children are such wonderful little humans who navigate this world by instinct before they can articulate why. Children are naturally tuned to feel what’s around them. I’ve heard many parents say that they hide their emotions from their kids because “they can sense these things”. I’m not here to give parenting advice today, rather point out the vast discrepancy in how emotions are felt, expressed, and handled.

In this post, what I want to elaborate on is:

1. Our perception on emotions

2. How we can change or shift emotional perception

3. And what to do with emotions.

Most people’s perception about emotions is either negative or full of avoidance. Generally, a negative view comes from past trauma or poor experiences growing up. Without general knowledge of emotional states, pretty much everyone figures out their own emotions by trial and error. Often resulting in many errors. It isn’t surprising that people don’t just want to ‘up and talk about emotions’ because it can become intense and/or uncomfortable dredging up past experiences. I’ve certainly received the big eye rolls from the kids when I say things like “you need to work this out and resolve it so that this doesn’t fester and become a bigger problem in the future…” 

So, how does one shift their perception? Through learning.

My mom always encouraged me to learn about myself (in life). I spent many hours in self-help books, personality programs, and leadership courses. Throughout the years I picked up many snippets on emotions. I’ve also spent the last decade trying to understand myself and my emotions. What I’ve learned about myself if that I AM extremely sensitive, to give a ballpark number from a test long ago, I am about 30% more than the average person. I also have a “superpower” of feeling or experiencing other people’s emotions without them ever telling me what there are feeling. So all of this had me thinking hard over the years and what I’ve come to deduce is this: emotions are simply waves of energy, wavelengths would be how they can be measured. But what does this mean to you? Let’s try deconstructing emotions…

• An emotion is a form of energy.
• Science is catching up to show that emotions can be measured in wavelength patterns.
• We can feel vibrations throughout our bodies.
• When we are in the throes of an intense emotion, what is experienced is the feeling of those energy waves.
• You can learn to shift these ‘waves’ and move in or out of an emotional state easily (with practice).
• Emotional states generally follow an event that acts as a catalyst within your body and it reacts creating distinct ‘vibrations or energy waves’ throughout your body resulting in an experienced emotion. The catalyst, or trigger, can ANYTHING from a scent, a memory coming back, a passing comment from a stranger, a certain taste, or so many other things. Our reactions tend to be emotionally charged.

Take a moment to ponder this… when you are emotionally charged, what is happening? You are essentially ‘vibing’ at that emotionally charged frequency. That’s all. It’s plain and simple.

Each emotion has a particular frequency. Here is a brief article on this from Emotional Intelligence Magazine.

When we start to map out where each emotion falls frequency-wise, you would start to see a trend of where heavy emotions are and where the high vibrational ones shine in comparison. If you can’t picture it, I’ll save you some time with the following image from David R. Hawkins, titled “Map of Conscious Levels”.